Introduction to the Ceremony

Greetings Friends and Family
We are gathered here today
Before God
And in the face of this company,
To join together John and Kathryn in holy matrimony;
It is not to be
Entered into unadvisedly,
Or lightly,
But reverently and soberly.
Into this Holy Estate,
These two persons present
Come now to be joined.
If any one can show just cause
Why they may not be lawfully
Joined together, let them
Speak now or forever hold their peace.

I require, and charge you both,
That if either of you know any
Impediment, why you may not
Be lawfully joined together in
matrimony, you confess it now.

Please welcome Kathryns Grandmother in a Bible Reading
Wedding Prayer :: 1 Corinthians 13 4-7

“Love is patient, Love is kind
No eyes of envy, true love is blind
Love is humble, it knows no pride
No selfish motives hidden inside
Love is gentle, makes no demands
Despite all wrong, true love still stands
Love is holy, love is pure
It lasts forever, it will endure

Love is loyal, believes the best
It loves the truth, love stands the test
Love is GOD sent in His Son
Love forgives all we have done

In this world where hatred seems to grow
True love goes against the flow
And becomes so hard to show

In this world where push turns into shove
We have strength to rise above
Through the power of His love
Lord, we need to know the power of Your love

Wedding Ceremony

This is the day you have chosen to become husband and wife.
We are here, not only to witness your commitment to each other,
but also to wish you every happiness in your future life together.
Within its framework of commitment, and loyalty,
marriage enables the establishment of a home,
where through trust,—– patience and respect,
the love and affection which you have for each other
may develop into a deep and lasting relationship.
We, who are witnessing your marriage,
hope that despite the stresses inevitable in any life,
your Love, Respect for each other,
your trust and understanding of each other will increase
your contentment and heighten your joy in living.

Please welcome Bill Blais for an Irish Blessing.

Irish Wedding Blessing
May the raindrops fall lightly on your brow
May the soft winds freshen your spirit
May the sunshine brighten your heart
May the burdens of the day rest lightly upon you
And may God enfold you in the mantle of His love.

May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the sun shine warm upon your face
and the rain fall soft upon your fields
And until we meet again my friend
May God hold you in the hollow (palm) of his hand

May God be with you and bless you
May you see your children’s children
May you be poor in misfortunes and rich in Blessings
May you know nothing but happiness
from this day forward

But rich or poor, quick or slow,
May you know nothing but happiness
From this day forward.
May the joys of today
Be those of tomorrow.

The Vows

Will you please, as an expression that your hearts are joined together in love, now join your hands.

Johns Personalized Vow

John: Kate,
I choose you, and Rachel, to be my family.
I promise to honour & respect you, and to provide for you to the best of my ability.
I promise to make our home a haven where trust, love, kindness, and laughter are abundant.
I make these promises to you, lovingly, and freely, and vow to honour them all the days of my life.

John, do you take Kathryn to be your lawfully wedded wife, to live together in marriage. Do you promise to love her, comfort her, honor and keep her For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health And forsaking all others, be faithful only to her. So long as you both shall live?

John: I do

Kates Personalized Vow

Kate: John
I cannot promise to always be rational.
I cannot promise to always be strong.
I cannot promise to be faultless.
I cannot promise to always be the same.
I cannot promise not to hurt your feelings sometimes.

I promise to share my thoughts with you.
I promise to be supportive of you.
I promise to be honest with you.
I promise to help you achieve your goals.
I promise to understand you.
I promise to love you

Kathryn, do you take John to be your lawfully wedded husband, to live together in marriage. Do you promise to love him, comfort him, honor and keep him For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health And forsaking all others, be faithful only to him. So long as you both shall live?

Kathryn: I do

Exchange of the Rings

These rings are a symbol of the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver for each is the giver and each is the receiver. May these rings always remind you of the vows you have taken.

John: Kate, with this ring, I thee wed. Take it and wear it as a symbol of all we shall share.

Kathryn: John, with this ring, I thee wed. Take it and wear it as a symbol of all we shall share.

Declaration of Marriage

Forasmuch as John and Kathryn have pledged to each other their fidelity, lifelong commitment, and love in the sight of God and their friends and family, I therefore, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the state of Massachusetts, pronounce them to be husband and wife.

Those whom God has joined together let no one put asunder.

John, You may now kiss your bride!

You have been alive for 8 amazing days. This morning, I began the day with a walk from our house to Granny and Granddads new house on N. Truro street. You weren’t that thrilled with the walk and had me hold you with on hand and push the stroller with the other. Quite tiresome, but worth it. Your Father had the night off tonight and we ended up cleaning the house, again! There is an amazing phenomenon at Straights Pond – about 20 pairs of swans have joined forces and have decided to call him pond home for the time being. It’s both amazing and beautiful, just like you. I often think of the swans when I look at you. What is not so wonderful, yet amazing is that you (in 8 days) have trained yourself to sleep all day and stay awake for most of the night. Somewhat of an infant induced insomnia/exhaustion has set in. I have always been an insomniac, but once I fall asleep I am a heavy sleeper. I love my sleep, but I love you more. Your tiny fingers are just like mine, only smaller.

Rachel! You have arrived. At 9:48am you entered the world at 6lbs, 3oz and 20 inches long. Dr. Iannessa wasn’t there to play catch but Dr. Mackey sure was. He did a great job…. a little uncomfortable because I had never met him before and he is young/attractive. I know they say when it comes down to it and you’re delivering a child… that modesty goes out the window. That was not the case. ๐Ÿ™‚ Some forceps and a couple of stitches later you entered the world with a cry. It was the MOST AMAZING FEELING OF MY LIFE!!!! I still can’t get over that I am now holding the little person who was in me, kicking me. I have just watched you for the last 2 days, mesmerized!!! Just to watch you move and kick – I felt that! You are precious. I hope one day you have your own child and you get to experience this. XOXOXOXO

Rachel! You have arrived. At 9:48am you entered the world at 6lbs, 3oz and 20 inches long. Dr. Iannessa wasn’t there to play catch but Dr. Mackey sure was. He did a great job…. a little uncomfortable because I had never met him before and he is young/attractive. I know they say when it comes down to it and you’re delivering a child… that modesty goes out the window. That was not the case. ๐Ÿ™‚ Some forceps and a couple of stitches later you entered the world with a cry. It was the MOST AMAZING FEELING OF MY LIFE!!!! I still can’t get over that I am now holding the little person who was in me, kicking me. I have just watched you for the last 2 days, mesmerized!!! Just to watch you move and kick – I felt that! You are precious. I hope one day you have your own child and you get to experience this. XOXOXOXO

Did you know that I don’t like to write with black ink? I have put off writing important things (including this journal) due to my lack of a non-black pen around. I have to go sit for Thomas (4) in a few hours. He is very well behaved but I am not looking forward to it. I never look forward to it. Too many things to do, you know? You have become extremely vocal as of last night. The sounds you come up with are absolutely beautiful!!! It made the 4am wakeup call more lovely. You love your 11pm feedings… cereal, maybe bananas and some formula. You re a consistent “through the night” sleeper. Back from baby-sitting…. Not sure if I could handle having two children, that was a lot of work. I definitely would have a hard time working from home if there were two of you. You are really teething and in so much pain. I am just glad that you’re alive and that you can feel the pain. It has been really started to cool down this week, I love this weather. You’re wearing a onesie and a full jumpsuit in your crib with a comforter covering you. All of the kids are back in school, the tourists have gone home…. the soda is cold and business is great. What could be better? Tonya being healthy. If I could make one change, I would restore the health of your thoughtful, loving, strong, beautiful, intelligent, and rugged Aunt. It makes me sad that there are so many “bad” people in this world and that Tonya is so “good” but has Unknown Primary Cancer that is in several parts of her body. I pray everyday that she beats it. If you are anything like her when you grow up, you will intensely love animals.

It’s raining out. I love this time of year. Every year around my birthday it cools down and the rainy season rolls on in…. followed by the cool, crisp air of autumn apple picking, pumpkin carving, and Halloween. Then it gets colder.. hot chocolate, Christmas Trees, Presents, Parties….. The cusp of Autumn is upon us. Great time for clean slates and new beginnings… new school year, new pencils. Lots of stuff I love about this time of year. So exciting. I wonder what time of year will be your favorite. Well Miss Rachel, I am heading to bed. This *22* year old needs her sleep. ๐Ÿ™‚

Well, it’s about 30 minutes until my first Birthday as a Mum. I love you. This year will be a very frugal birthday, but I have you and that is all that matters. You’re sitting across from me fast asleep. How sweet you are, I love you dear, sweet, baby Rachel. I only hope that you realize that I make every decision based upon your best interests. By the way… while I think about this… no more peeing on my hands. That was gross. You’re awake! Ja’nelle still hasn’t had the baby and I think they still don’t have a name. Just wanted to let you know how much I love you and thank you for sharing my birthday with me.

Today is your 3 month Birthday!!! You now smile ALL the time and can recognize me, your Father and Grandparents. You LOVE eating cereal, banana and are still in size one diapers. I haven’t given you a bathtub since the day your cord fell off, you really enjoy coming into the shower with me. Last week we went to see Toni, Paul and Adam. You enjoyed interacting with Adam, he is a handsome baby. At 2 months you weighed 10.5lbs. You have got to be 2lbs heavier than that now. I have a TON of size 1 diapers, Toni gave me a bunch as Adam has already grown into size 2’s. You have a mild rash on your girl part so I am changing you a ton. Ja’nelle is due today, they still haven’t chosen a name for him…. they are considering Ryan and Tyler. Right now you are swinging in your baby swing and are as happy as can be. Adrian, Linda, Sarah and Haley are all living up the street until they find a house. Tonya is having radiation on her brain to try and get rid of the cancer. Clive just got a new job and will hopefully be moving with the animals and Tonya to New England. I am having a barbecue next weekend for all of the women I met on Parentsplace. That is all I really have to say for now. I regret that I don’t write more often…. I’ve just been busy and occupied. I love you.

Rachel slept through the night for the first time. (2 months 5 days)

Rachel’s Birth Story: I went in last Tuesday (May 16) and they admitted me to the Labor and Delivery Ward (Birthing Unit as they like to call it) where my OB met me and placed the cervadil around my cervix. At this point my cervix was long and thick.. but was soft. The next morning (May 17) they checked me and I was 2cm dilated and 50% effaced (it was again MY OB that checked me)… and they started the pitocin drip. The also told me that I was Group B Strep Positive and started antibiotics. I had contractions off and on at by 1pm I was up to 80% effaced and dilated to 3cm. My OB then broke my water which was the only painful part of the procedure. Water breaking (from what I have been told) doesn’t usually hurt.. But I was tense, not knowing what to expect. My contractions got quite uncomfortable and I broke down and let them play Pulp Fiction on my spine. The epidural was in… and to all the first timers – it really didn’t hurt at all. It stung for less than five seconds… and felt like someone tapping on the spine. All really painfree. Off and on, my OB was there for me – by far the best that I could have imagined.. warned me of the social workers pending arrival… and was just a very supportive person. The contractions came and went.. But I couldn’t feel them. Rachel Eileen was born @ 9:48am on Thursday (May 18th) and weighed in at 6 pounds, 3 ounces. The ultrasound was extremely accurate. She is a 20 inch, leggy, blue eyed blonde. I am currently accepting donations of sticks so we can beat all the boys away. It’s amazing how your view of dating changes when you have a baby girl. I will have a lot of penis’s to worry about. *L* We got out the next day (24 hours later) but had to take her to the Pediatrician the next day just to check her out. A visiting nurse came to the house yesterday (Sunday) to make sure I hadn’t gone ‘psycho’ with Post Partum Depression. We are doing absolutely great. The breast feeding is just not working out – but such is life. *S* Nothing ever works out exactly the way you planned. To the ladies that know me well… the Post Partum Depression has absolutely not hit me. That’s about it for now – I really think I just wrote an epic – but I just don’t care. I am lucky, very lucky. She’s gorgeous.

Rachel’s Birth Story: I went in last Tuesday (May 16) and they admitted me to the Labor and Delivery Ward (Birthing Unit as they like to call it) where my OB met me and placed the cervadil around my cervix. At this point my cervix was long and thick.. but was soft. The next morning (May 17) they checked me and I was 2cm dilated and 50% effaced (it was again MY OB that checked me)… and they started the pitocin drip. The also told me that I was Group B Strep Positive and started antibiotics. I had contractions off and on at by 1pm I was up to 80% effaced and dilated to 3cm. My OB then broke my water which was the only painful part of the procedure. Water breaking (from what I have been told) doesn’t usually hurt.. But I was tense, not knowing what to expect. My contractions got quite uncomfortable and I broke down and let them play Pulp Fiction on my spine. The epidural was in… and to all the first timers – it really didn’t hurt at all. It stung for less than five seconds… and felt like someone tapping on the spine. All really painfree. Off and on, my OB was there for me – by far the best that I could have imagined.. warned me of the social workers pending arrival… and was just a very supportive person. The contractions came and went.. But I couldn’t feel them. Rachel Eileen was born @ 9:48am on Thursday (May 18th) and weighed in at 6 pounds, 3 ounces. The ultrasound was extremely accurate. She is a 20 inch, leggy, blue eyed blonde. I am currently accepting donations of sticks so we can beat all the boys away. It’s amazing how your view of dating changes when you have a baby girl. I will have a lot of penis’s to worry about. *L* We got out the next day (24 hours later) but had to take her to the Pediatrician the next day just to check her out. A visiting nurse came to the house yesterday (Sunday) to make sure I hadn’t gone ‘psycho’ with Post Partum Depression. We are doing absolutely great. The breast feeding is just not working out – but such is life. *S* Nothing ever works out exactly the way you planned. To the ladies that know me well… the Post Partum Depression has absolutely not hit me. That’s about it for now – I really think I just wrote an epic – but I just don’t care. I am lucky, very lucky. She’s gorgeous.

You are 19 days old today!! Had a client meeting this morning, Granny baby-sat you. Rainy day today, I love with weather. With each day that goes by, you become more alert. You are sleeping for longer stretches but in between you are awake and demanding to be held.

It’s been 13 days!! Cat and Shawna both had their babies!! You are such a good baby, it’s unreal. You’re not fussy at all and I was even able to give you your first bath as your umbilical cord fell off some time in the middle of last night. I have been giving you medicine because you had a white tongue and mouth and the Pediatrician says you have thrush. The medicine is helping, it is clearing up really well. The swelling on the left side of your head (from the forceps) is going down. Tomorrow you and I go to see Dr. Iannessa, I bought him a beautiful rose plant and card to thank him for everything. You’re waking up… I better finish this entry.

Well Lady, I have been at South Shore Hospital since 5pm on Tuesday. It is now 6am on the 18th. I am 90-100% effaced and 5cm dilated. I am laying here complete with Blood 02 tester, BP cuff, catheter, IV with four different things dripping in and the epidural I swore I would never get. But God Damn this hurts!

5 more days to go!! Saw you on the ultrasound yesterday when I got a high tech 3/D ultrasound. Granny was with me, it was so cool. I gained 6lbs in 2 weeks, that is a lot for me…. I have no signs of labor…. nada, zilch. I go in on Tuesday at 5pm to get a gel and stay overnight. I called Scituate Pediatrics today and have arranged for them (on Dr. Ianessa’s suggestion) and they will arrange to check you out after you are born to clean you for your homecoming.

10 more days to go!! 10 more days to go!! Then I get induced to give birth. Yeay!!! It is so very very hot… I just wish that your Father would finally install the A/C unit in the window. I thought I was going to sweat away to nothing today. ๐Ÿ™‚ The day is so nice, I have yet to see a Wrangler with the top on. Well, except for mine, that is. I promised your Father that I wouldn’t ask for the top off anymore this month if he would get the A/C situated. Nothing like melting a nutcase. ๐Ÿ™‚

Ok Miss Rachel, I start my journal to/with you on a gloomy Sunday afternoon. Our cat, Nala is also in her late stages of pregnancy. I expect her to deliver any day now. On Monday, Granny and I are supposed to drive for a while and visit Florence (an elderly friend of Adrian’s). If Nala shows any symptoms of labor, I will have to postpone as Nala’s delivery history shows that she needs human assistance. I hope I am not the same way. (Comment on 1/24/02 – EWWWWWW) Adrian, Linda, Sarah, and Haley are coming for a visit next weekend. I can’t wait!!!!! I just wish they would come 5-6 weeks from now as I want them to meet you. As I write this, you are committed to inhabiting the left side of my tummy…… you have been there for most of this pregnancy. Your little bum is IN my ribs. OUCH! I just hope that one day your child does the exact same thing to you. It is almost indescribable to say what it feels like to be kicked in my bladder. 21 years ago I was kicking Granny, I guess this is her payback. I wouldn’t trade this for the world! I have no problem with acid indigestion (anymore) as Gail gave me some Titrilac. It has worked wonders!! At this stage of the pregnancy I am craving onion rings, strawberry milkshakes, sour patch kids, and Burger King chicken sandwiches. MMMMmmm. It has only taken your Father and I 6 months to agree on a name. Rachel Eileen. If you are anything like you’re Granny, I will be very damned proud.

I had another ultrasound today, the baby is definitely a girl. Woo hoo.

I had my third Ultrasound today, it took forever in the waiting room. Felt like an eternity because of my FULL BLADDER!!! It is just cruel to make a pregnant woman drink that much, hold it in… then place pressure on her bladder. Cruelty if you ask me. Not pleasant. Your father didn’t come with me despite everything going on. Said he was too tired. Well *I* found out that everything is PERFECT with the baby…… The ultrasound tech asked me if I wanted to know the sex but because I’m not *that* far along she really couldn’t be 100%. Your Father didn’t want to know, preferred to be surprised. However, curiosity killed the cat. It’s a GIRL!!!!!!!!! Ja’nelle told me she is also pregnant today. I am so glad to be on the Pink Team!

Who Am I?
I’m Katy Muir. I live on 336 Hurlbutt Street in Wilton, Connecticut. My Mother, my Father and I raise cats. I have three brothers: Adrian 20, Clive 18 and Chris 16. I am 12 years old. I go to Cider Mill and I am in the sixth grade. My teachers are Miss English, Mrs Kent and Mr Watt. I like to ice skate and raise cats. After school on Tuesday I go to sixth dimension. After school on Wednesdays & Fridays I go to Wilton Meadows, a Nursing Home. On Thursdays I go to Cider Mill Singers. On the weekend I babysit for a various amount of people, I enjoy kids a lot.

If I Could Change The World
If I could change the world it would be a hippy era for about one year. There would be a war on drugs and I would be the first woman president. There would be micro chips you could swallow so you would not have to go to school. Everyone would like everyone. No matter if you are fat or slim, black or white, poor or wealthy or what your race is. Every country would like each other and you would be free.

What I Want To Be When I Grow Up
When I grow up I want to be a chef. this is because my whole family (including me) are good cooks. My oldest brother Adrian and my Mom have taught me a lot of things about food. The chef’s cooking school of my choice is called Culinary Institute of America in New York. I would like to open my own restaurant. It will be in Chatham, Massachusetts on the main street near the church. It would be called Le cuisine even though their would only be some French food on the menu. My favorite dish is called Le’ Apples France’ and it is diced wet apples with a little cinnamon and ginger and raisins. I learned to make it a couple of years ago.

I Think My Parents
I think my parents are very nice people. They are very understanding and always listen to my side. If I do something wrong they will probably give me a lecture and help me correct my mistakes. My Dad works at Perkin Elmer. My Dad is also very smart because if I ask him something he will always know the answer. If I don’t understand something he will help me understand it. My Mom works for William Ravies and like my father she is very hard working. My Mother, my Father and I are the ones who really raise the cats.

People Hurt My Feelings Most By
People can hurt my feelings with they make jokes about my weight. Everyday I hear cracks like “Were your relatives stuck under the ice” or “Can I have the autograph of Porky Pig” or “How is Elsie the world’s most famous cow?” or “Make any earthquakes recently?” I do not like being overweight but if people don’t like me for who I am, don’t make fun of me. Whenever I get a grade everyone assumes its bad even though it might be good.

I Am Proud When
I am proud when I get a good grade on a paper that I have worked hard on, especially Social Studies. Social Studies is my worst subject even though it is my favorite. When I do a whole folder on Rome with a lot of essay questions and I receive an A- I am very proud. I am also very proud when I go to Wilton Meadows – a nursing home in Wilton. I am proud when a resident says to another resident “Isn’t she sweet” or “Isn’t she cute” or “Isn’t she nice.” That makes me feel very proud.

On Vacation I Like To
On vacation I like to go to Cape Cod, Massachusetts. My family has a house on Cape Cod in Chatham. I love to go to the beach and build the “Crem de la crem” of a castle with a mote. I always put seashells on the top. I love to go to the flea market because I normally buy something their. At night I go to the drive in movies and see a double feature with my parents. On the way home from Cape Cod I like to go to the water slides till 5 then drive home for 4 hours.

The Happiest Day Of My Life
The happiest day of my life was when I saw a kitten being born for the first time. It was really funny before the kittens were born because the mother Sheba could not reach her feet. Sheba looked like she was about to explode. When Sheba was in labor and about to have a kitten you could tell because her stomach was going in and out a lot. When the kitten came out and the mother cut the cord the kitten was all wet. About 3 hours later the coat was softer. About 3 weeks later the eyes started opening and the color started coming.

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